Recently the space shuttle Columbia was retired, and mounted on the back of a 747. There is nothing more majestic than the take off of a 747 Boeing Airplane (even more so with the shuttle piggy-backing). It is truly an amazing feet that a 975,000 lbs machine made of metal, rubber, etc... can get off the ground, let-alone fly. Great efforts are made for the safety of these planes and their passenger. When safety is lost, the results are catastrophic.
The same applies to our homes. A Happy Home is a safe home. Safety can defined as, "freedom from danger, risk, or injury. While most of us get the physical safety issues of raising children (i.e., car seats, stable houses, free of abuse, etc...), there is a safety which also provides the freedom for our children to explore and become who God created them to be. In essence, we remove obstacles like those mentioned in a recent article I read which states, "Social research has identified many indicators that put children at risk of problems ranging from hyperactivity to dropping out of school to becoming involved in crime."*
So, what can we as parents do to provide the safety for our children? Let me suggest 3 safety tips to making your home a Happy Home:
- Take care of Self: Bottom line, if you don't take care of self, you can't take care of your children. This certainly doesn't give us permission to be selfish, but we need to be reminded that you can't give what you don't have. If you model self-care, your children will follow and also be equipped for adulthood with this necessary tool.
- Make your Marriage #1 Priority: Let me state it plainly... YOUR CHILDREN COME SECOND. The safety this provides for your children cannot be overstated. The most important way you can show you children you love them is to love your spouse (their parent). If you're already divorced, don't worry... you're not a second rate parent. Start where you are at. Also, communicate appropriately with your children about their other parent. The Golden Rule applies here: do unto others, as you would have them do to you!
- Keep the Big Picture in Mind: Parenting is an endurance race. Don't allow yourself to get caught up in the trivial, although frustrating, details parenting brings. Keeping the big picture in mind will help you choose your battles wisely, remember what qualities you are forming in their lives, and assures you are modeling the type of person you want your child to become.
Your home is the "launch pad" for your children to soar!!!