5 Ways the Holy Spirit makes a Difference in our Homes

All too often when a discussion arises about the Holy Spirit we either turn it into a debate about some of the “manifestations” of the Spirit, or we allocate Him to a church service.  This is so unfortunate, as the the Holy Spirit was not given for a spiritual leader to impress a crowd.  Nor was He given to be contained in a 90 minute gather of Christians.


I am thankful for the work He accomplished when we gather together for a prayer meeting, church service, worship time, outreach, etc… However, in recent years I have grown in deep appreciation for the Holy Spirit’s empowering abilities, direction, and overall presence in every circumstance and relationship in life.  Allowing the Holy Spirit to be an active role in your daily life will make a massive difference.

Since the Holy Spirit is God, He is omnipresent (everywhere at all-times).  One of the greatest benefits we have concerning God’s Spirit dwelling in born-again Christian, is that He follows us home.  With the stress and strain that plagues today’s families, we need the Holy Spirit’s help in our homes more than every before.  Here are 5 Ways the Holy Spirit makes a Difference in our Homes:

  1. HE HELPS US PRAY:  I meet so many well intentioned families, husbands, and wives who want Christ to be the center of their home and marriage, but aren’t even sure how to pray for these.  Romans 8:26-27 tells us, “26 Also, the Spirit helps us with our weakness. We do not know how to pray as we should. But the Spirit himself speaks to God for us, even begs God for us with deep feelings that words cannot explain. 27 God can see what is in people’s hearts. And he knows what is in the mind of the Spirit, because the Spirit speaks to God for his people in the way God wants.”  I am so thankful He helps me pray for my wife and kids.  
  2. HE HEALS OUR SOULS: We all enter into adulthood with emotional and relational baggage.  If these wounded parts of our soul are never adequately dealt with, negative patterns and unproductive behaviors will be repeated in our own families.  There’s one line in an old church song that still speaks to my soul… “Take your burdens to the Lord and leave ’em there!”  The Holy Spirit is our MASTER PHYSICIAN and that doesn’t just apply to our bodies.
  3. HE SHAPES OUR CHARACTER:  Cooperating with the Holy Spirit determines the level of difference He can/will make in our homes.  Jesus referred to the Holy Spirit as our guide, our teacher, our helper…  The Spirit will bring to remembrance Scriptures we have learned or heart.  He will give us the wisdom we need.  We are truly changed from the inside-out.
  4. HE EMPOWERS OUR LIVES:  No one knows us like Jesus.  He knows our weaknesses, but He also knows the potential He placed within us.  Jesus encouraged His closest followers who would have known His teachings better than anyone that they needed to wait for the Promise of the Father, the Baptism with the Holy Spirit.  The reason they needed to wait for the Holy Spirit is explained in Acts 1:8, “…when the Holy Spirit comes to you, you will receive power.”  We need the power that only comes through the Holy Spirit in order to be the husbands, fathers, wives, mothers, friends, witnesses, leaders, teachers, managers, etc… The Holy Spirit does empower our lives!
  5. HE PROVIDES SPIRITUAL GIFTS:  Last, but certainly not least, the Holy Spirit gives to us spiritual gifts.  I like to define these as Spirit Enabled Abilities.  The Bible teaches that these abilities/gifts are not given for your benefit, but for the benefit of others… including your family.  These spiritual gifts are certainly not given just for a Sunday morning or a church service.  They are given to us to benefit and bless others no matter where or when.

Of course, this is not an exhaustive list of difference the Holy Spirit makes in your homes, but it is a good place to start.  Begin today and ask the Holy Spirit to be a more active part of your day and your family.  This is one invitation He will not pass up.

Twelve Rules for a Happy Marriage

I found this list the other day, providing rules for a Happy Marriage.  Ann Landers who was a famous newspaper columnist is acredited with this list, although I wasn’t able to confirm.  She began writing the “Ask Ann Landers” column in 1955 and continued for 47 years, by which time its readership was 90 million people.

Anyway, enjoy the list and consider how each may improve the quality of your marriage.  I especially list #8.  I present to you:

Twelve Rules for a Happy Marriage

  1. Never both be angry at once.
  2. Never yell at each other unless the house is on fire.
  3. Remember that it takes two to make an argument. The one who is wrong is the one who will be doing most of the talking.
  4. Yield to the wishes of the other–as an exercise in self-discipline, if you can’t think of a better reason.
  5. If you have a choice between making yourself or your mate look good–choose your mate.
  6. If you feel you must criticize, do so lovingly.
  7. Never bring up a mistake of the past.
  8. Neglect the whole world rather than each other.
  9. Never let the day end without saying at least one complimentary thing to your life partner.
  10. Never meet without an affectionate greeting.
  11. When you’ve made a mistake, talk it out and ask for forgiveness.
  12. Never go to bed mad.

Becoming an Irresistible WIFE

In my post, Becoming an Irresistible HUSBAND, I wrote about the other side of the coin.  It does take 2 to Tango, but I do believe that when one spouse “Ups Their Game“, the other takes notice and adjusts accordingly.  In other words, when your spouse’s needs are adequately met, they are more prone to meet your needs.

I do think that this list is invaluable, because most men do not know how to express our needs or desires (ok, other than the first one I list).  I covered both this list, and the list for men to meet for their wife in my sermon series, SACRED LOVE.  However, if you missed it or wanted the brief outline of how to become IRRESISTIBLE to your husband, here you go.

  1. Sexual Fulfillment. His wife meets this need by becoming a terrific sexual partner. She studies her own sexual response to recognize and understand what brings out the best in her; then she shares this information with him, and together they learn to have a sexual relationship that both find repeatedly satisfying and enjoyable.
  2. Recreational Companionship. She develops an interest in the recreational activities he enjoys most and tries to become proficient at them. If she finds she cannot enjoy them, she encourages him to consider other activities that they can enjoy together. She becomes his favorite recreational companion, and he associates her with his most enjoyable moments of relaxation.
  3. Physical Attractiveness. She keeps herself physically fit with diet and exercise, and she wears her hair, makeup, and clothes in a way that he finds attractive and tasteful. He is attracted to her in private and proud of her in public.
  4. Domestic Support. She creates a home that offers him a refuge from the stresses of life. She manages the household responsibilities in a way that encourages him to spend time at home enjoying his family.
  5. Admiration. She understands and appreciates him more than anyone else. She reminds him of his value and achievements and helps him maintain self-confidence. She avoids criticizing him. She is proud of him, not out of duty, but from a profound respect for the man she chose to marry.

You may or may not think this list to be accurate, fair or based on 21st century politically correct dialogue, but I’m here to tell you, it is scary how accurate this list is.  It is developed from Willard Harley’s book, His Needs, Her Needs, in which he shares the research and background nature of this list.

And men, I think we might benefit from the list of 5 ways we can Become an Irresistible Man to our Wife!!